Is everybody getting by OK so far?? — VapeCritic
I'm good at seeing elephants in rooms so let me take a dab and say obvious things.
It is a discussion forum on vapes. We'll "get by". It's what we humans do. :cool:
One way we get by is by bullshitting ourselves and believing it -- the psychology of this is NOT about private messages -- so that what gets dealt with is anything but the real matter.
What is the real matter?
As I see it, fear.
PM's are merely a proxy -- another brick in the wall so to speak.
with the MV1 endorsement, it seems many folks feared you sold out to Ghost. How could you dare recommend the MV1 and then get all in bed with Ghost? I would bet a hundred bucks against an ironic nickel that Ghost likewise fears you were not enthusiastic enough? Then sometimes you get too drunk and reveal your politics, invidiously, and like it or not that scares the shit out of some people. "What does it say about me **if** my vaping guru is an MV1-endorsing Trump-lover... should I even like the MV1 now?" etc :zip:
And then there is the often mumbled fear you quite simply have lost your passion for vapes in general, this forum, and are in a sort of an existential crisis of identity. Is VapeCritic alive? Some wonder if you honestly even like this place or even your business anymore? And if you don't, that would explain quite a bit. It is not nonhuman to end up hating something you once loved. I loved academia once -- until it became a job -- and then I hated even the "idea" of it as I discovered (GASP!) its utter impurity. :gasp:
And then of course there are your
fears, the leader of the forum -- and the leader in all things expectations here. Those always radiate down
and always with unintended consequences. This is 100% on you. Your domain, your forum, your business, your choices. It goes back to your "purpose" for the forum we discussed not that long ago. You threaten to close the forum, to sell it, to remove a useful "community" feature, etc. This scares people. I don't want to invest in him or the community if it is just going to dump me later anyway..." Something to ponder as you ponder purpose.
That said. I am primarily here for the people here -- they are the magic sauce (time for another dab after this paragraph). They are the attraction. The reason to come here. Run the good ones off and the only thing of value left is a leased database of stochastic garbage.
The truth is you're more "transparent" than any online person I consume, and this is not always a "happiness-inducing" phenomena in folks. I met my hero Carl Palmer and in a personal discussion became saddened to learn he was a vegetarian.:scream: Being a carnivore, I reject vegetarianism so if my favorite most energetic drummer of all time is a vegetarian, should he really be my favorite drummer if he is a vegetarian.... is he really that energetic :grimace:
? What would that say about me if my favorite drummer is not energetic? :gasp:
As silly as it sounds, this is how human brains actually work and the phenomena is in play here too.
As the song says, "shine on you crazy diamond." Hugs, and Dabs! :heart: :nerd: